Changing our Belief about Change
Neuroplasticity is a fancy way of saying that our brains can change. We are not victims of our neurons or genes. We are empowered creators of our mental states. The erroneous belief that we are "set in stone" can stop people from trying to change and take away their responsibility. In the same way that germ theory altered the way we look at sanitation and hygiene, I think that spreading the knowledge about our brain’s ability to change can alter the way our culture approaches emotions, attitudes, and values.
Our brains are made up of billions
of neurons. Neurons connect to one another, forming pathways that
relay information. We learn things by forming neural connections in
response to associations in our everyday experiences1. In learning to
drive a car, we experience the connection between red traffic lights and pressing
the brake. We form a neural pathway for this association. Each time we brake at
a red light, we reinforce and strengthen the neural pathway. As the saying goes, "Neurons that fire together, wire together." The more we
practice something, the more we strengthen the pathway, and the easier the skill becomes.
Our behavioral response can become almost automatic2.
Our brain can also prune old neural pathways to quiet or unlearn associations3. For example, after you move to a different home, you learn the directions to your
new place and stop practicing your old path. But in those first few weeks after
a move, have you ever found yourself engrossed in another thought and
accidentally pulling into the driveway of your old home because your automatic
pathway took over? Luckily, by refraining from the old directions
and practicing the new way home, you strengthen a new neural pathway and the old
neural pathway weakens. It's a good thing our brains can change, or we would still be pulling up to our
childhood home.
Similar to physical skills like driving, the brain also forms neural pathways in learning and practicing emotional skills. Your emotional responses to experiences in your world are the result of well-worn neural pathways that developed over your lifetime. While our genes influence our temperament, research has demonstrated that our environment and our own mind can physically alter our brains and thus our emotional responses. This means that emotions that we want more of in our life and our world, like happiness, patience, tolerance, compassion, and kindness, can be practiced and learned as skills. Other emotions, like anxiety, stress, fear, or anger, can be dampened3.
Similar to physical skills like driving, the brain also forms neural pathways in learning and practicing emotional skills. Your emotional responses to experiences in your world are the result of well-worn neural pathways that developed over your lifetime. While our genes influence our temperament, research has demonstrated that our environment and our own mind can physically alter our brains and thus our emotional responses. This means that emotions that we want more of in our life and our world, like happiness, patience, tolerance, compassion, and kindness, can be practiced and learned as skills. Other emotions, like anxiety, stress, fear, or anger, can be dampened3.
Keeping in the car motif, let’s talk about an emotional
association: traffic and anger. When we get stuck in traffic, an
automatic response can be anger or frustration. But, by feeling angry every time we
are in traffic, we are strengthening that neural pathway and cementing that
emotional response. When there is nothing we can do in that moment but accept
the traffic, wouldn’t it be great to feel positive emotions instead? We can just
observe the negative emotion that we are feeling and try practicing a different
emotional response. We can start linking traffic with stillness and peace. This
would be difficult at first because we want to let the well-developed neural
pathway leading to anger fire, but by inhibiting that pathway, we help
unwire those connections and strengthen a different response. As we practice
responding with peace, we strengthen a new neural pathway and it becomes easier
to choose.Let's learn and practice compassion, kindness, and happiness.
Knowing that our brains can change, we then ask, what do we
want in our brains? And as a result, what do we want in our world? Most people of
good will yearn for happiness, compassion, and love. Let’s start practicing.
In my experience, learning about the concept of neuroplasticity and finding the skills to change my emotional responses has immensely improved my life. Before grasping this, I thought my mind was a black box. I didn't understand why I felt certain things beyond the immediate external circumstances. I had no idea how to change things. I scoffed at seeing a therapist because I couldn't imagine what they would help me with. I had no idea what I would even say to a therapist. Luckily, the good ones can help you understand your mind and the process of change. You don't even have to know where to start; the decision to change is enough. The practice of meditation gave me the set of skills to guide my own transformation. It has been the most life altering skill that I have gained. I shifted from
thinking that my emotion and thoughts owned me to feeling like I could play a
role in changing my state. This is challenging work and takes patient practice, but as I am experiencing the fruits of these skills, peaceful relationships, a joyful outlook on life, and a safe harbor within myself during difficult times, I am determined to work even harder.
Neuroscience, positive psychology, and contemplative
traditions have given us a roadmap. We know our brains can change based on our
environment and our behaviors. What if we started building and reinforcing the
neural pathways of love, cooperation, forgiveness, and kindness so that these
things became our automatic response? What if we adopted and shared this belief
that we can change and took responsibility for our outlook on life? What
if we taught children in schools about their ability to reflect on and guide their
emotions? What if we started priming those around us in our families and
community with our own grateful reflections and kind actions? What if our compassionate actions in schools, families, and communities started shifting our culture? I find these
possibilities exhilarating and hopeful. By learning and practicing these positive
emotional responses, I think our world can discover a new way home and pull into the driveway of compassion.
Thank you to D. Scott Brown for reading several drafts.
References
1. Byrne, John H. “Learning and Memory.”
In Neuroscience Online: An Electronic
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I too found your blog through DailyGood. Your description of meditation is great and I also enjoyed your perspective on neuroplasticity (which is one of my current favorite topics.) I've witten a couple of perspectives on it on my blog http://smartliving365.com Please check it out if it sounds interesting. I'm looking forward to more of your's in the future...
ReplyDeleteI love all you're saying here. I've sent a link to the Daily good article to a friend of mine who has problems that pile up so has a hard time seeing anything good.
ReplyDeleteI hope he'll follow through and find a place of peace in his life, as I have in mine. Mindfulness leads to peace.
Thank you for your words.